Backgiveness: A Good Alternative To Forgiveness

Backgiveness: A Good Alternative To Forgiveness

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So what is forgiveness exactly?
I’m sure the answer is very individual and that great souls like the Dalai Lama or Paramahansa Yogananda live or lived forgiveness in a much different way than you and I.

Forgiveness as we live it means that I first have to judge the person or situation I want to forgive.

But: Who am I to judge?

Wouldn’t it be better to go beyond judgment where forgiveness isn’t needed, creating more equality between perpetrator and victim and more chance of balance?

Forgiveness also means that the person who’s been hurt takes part of the responsibility and part of the guilt.

I have clients who have been abused, who are punishing themselves for being incapable of forgiveness. They’ve been hurt, are the victims but yet they feel guilty! They’ve taken on a responsibility that should be in the hands of the perpetrator.

What gives them relief…

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